I don’t care about a statue: Pacification in the fight against racism

I don’t care about a statue: Pacification in the fight against racism

Pacify – [pas–uh-fahy]  verb (used with object), pacified, pacifying. to bring or restore to a state of peace or tranquillity; quiet; calm: to pacify an angry man.   In the last few weeks, the spotlight on America’s white supremacy has been magnified tenfold with the events at Charlottesville, Virginia. What began as a rally of Neo-Nazis and different factions of the far right movement now known as the “Alt-Right”, complaining of America’s treatment of the white man, and proclaiming this to be a time to “return to what the U.S. is supposed to be”, has morphed into a battle of free-speech, anti-fascism, racism, and where America is headed to. The response from…

Race Baiting and white America’s response to the Procter & Gamble commercial

Race Baiting and white America’s response to the Procter & Gamble commercial

  I, like millions of people, saw the Procter & Gamble commercial. In it, there were various Black children and teenagers of various ages talking with their parents about the everyday rigors of racism. A little girl sits with her mother looking in a mirror as she is told she is beautiful; a young boy talks to an older relative about being called a racial slur; a young man is counseled by his mom to get home safe; a teenage girl driving for the first time is given advice by…

How the Good Men Project Helped Me Find My Voice

How the Good Men Project Helped Me Find My Voice

In my life, the one thing that has come the easiest to me is writing. The ability to create worlds on paper, express my thoughts by using a pencil and pen, and to make my point through the written word has always been effortless. I was always encouraged by my mother to write, my craft was refined in high-school, my writing style was influenced by those who had come before me, and my environment and upbringing shaped what I was to talk about. I truly love writing; there is not…

StoryCorps interview!!!

StoryCorps interview!!!

I had the opportunity to participate in an interview with Storycorps, an organization that is committed to sharing stories of people everywhere in the world. We talked about writing, race, gender, travel, friends, and new projects. I have to say this was the best interview I have ever given. Such a great time, I advise everyone to participate in a StoryCorps interview.

Tupac Shakur, Malcolm X, masculinity, and the importance of fatherhood

Tupac Shakur, Malcolm X, masculinity, and the importance of fatherhood

June 16th was the birthday of Tupac Amaru Shakur. Everyone was celebrating his life and the release of the film “All Eyez On Me”: the biopic about the rapper, activist, actor, and icon. There was the usual praise lavished on Shakur – greatest rapper ever, legend, brilliant actor, and symbol of Black male excellence. While I agree with everything that has been stated about Shakur, when I think of him two things come to mind: a life unrealized and the importance of fatherhood. Tupac was like a lot of young…

Interview on The Jesse Lee Peterson show

Interview on The Jesse Lee Peterson show

On Thursday May 18, 2017, I was given a chance to appear on The Jesse Lee Peterson show. Peterson, a Black conservative preacher who thinks Black people don’t know how to act and white people having the right to be afraid of us, and I spoke about my latest essay, “Gaslighting: Don’t Do It.” While I knew the conversation would be challenging, I didn’t know it would be ridiculous. Peterson denied that Gaslighting exists and said men should not be weak. Overall, a very interesting exchange. Check out the interview.

Pushing The Boundaries of Creativity

Pushing The Boundaries of Creativity

  In 2017, technology is making a permanent place in our lives. What was once optional, tech has now become almost as important to our everyday lives as water, food, and sleep. Leaving house without your smart phone is unthinkable. Airport check-in kiosks have replaced clerks, Email and text messaging are the preferred mode of communication, and instead of purchasing a physical magazine or newspaper, a periodical can simply be downloaded. In other words, technology has changed our lives forever. With tech being nearly irreplaceable, it is only logical that…

Black, While Using Uber

Black, While Using Uber

Originally printed at The Good Men Project  As a Black man, I am used to poor treatment and being denied service. I have been ignored by retail store clerks, stalked by department store security guards, made to wait an unusually long time for my order to be taken at a restaurant, and have a sometimes incredibly hard time hailing a cab. Ah yes, catching a taxi – one of the many challenges of being Black. My friends used to trade stories of what strategies worked when getting a cab driver…